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Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Happy 4th of July111

Happy 4th of July!!!

I hear the fireworks bursting outside but I can barely see the glow. I'm waiting impatiently for the family to get in the car so we can drive over to see the fireworks closer.

I just saw one across the canal. So pretty.

We went swimming twice today. My daughter and daughter-in-law saved a baby duck

Monday, June 26, 2006

Getting old(er)?

Oy!

I told one of my best friends that I graduated to camo belt (in taekwondo) this weekend. What was her response? “It should help prevent osteoporosis.”

She’s only a year or two older than me.

Sunday, I took two of my kids to see “Click” with Adam Sandler and Henry Winkler. You know Henry Winkler – Fonzie (from Happy Days). In this, Henry Winkler is an old grandpa. How can Fonzie be such an old man? It was just last week he was wearing leather and racing motorcycles and being oh so cool.

So okay, I am a grandma, but I’m a young grandma. I was 39 when my grandson was born. The tabloids say Nicole Kidman is 39 and pregnant. I’m young enough to be my grandson’s mother.

But I can’t believe Fonzie is an old man! What horrible, alternate universe have I slid into??? What tricks is fate trying to pull on me?

Oh! And Saturday, a good friend who is only one year older than me confessed that she is totally gray under her dyed hair color. I still have my natural hair color. Knock on wood! Of course, Taylor Hicks is prematurely gray. My cousin was also completely gray by the time she turned thirty.

I read somewhere recently that our bodies should last 120 years but most don’t because we don’t take care of them properly. Yeah! I remember now where I read that. I picked up an AARP magazine to read in the Dermatologist’s office this morning. Since when do I read AARP? Like that was the first time because I saw a health article that caught my eye. But since when am I so health conscious and trying to prevent diabetes, etc?

That reminds me. A few months ago, I was in Barnes & Nobles with my 15 year old. I saw Paul McCartney on the cover of the AARP magazine and I exclaimed that shocked me to think one of the Beatles was a senior citizen now. As if that wasn’t bad enough, my daughter asked “Who’s Paul McCartney?” Ohmigod! How can anyone not know who Paul McCartney is? Likewise, I’m sure if I had said anything about Henry Winkler being Fonzie, she would have asked “Whose Fonzie?”

This getting old stuff is for the birds. Personally, I plan to stay young forever. If it takes eating blueberries and fruits and veggies and exercising two hours daily (minimum), and drinking lots of water and getting enough sleep, I’ll do it! I’d rather sweat for an hour or two a day than suffer the effects of diabetes and heart disease and cancer 24 hours a day later.

Knock on wood!!!

Today at work, I removed several names from our mailing list. It was really sad. The majority of people requesting to be taken off our mailing list wrote they were old (in their 80s and 90s) and in poor health. One broke my heart. It said “Please pray for a quick death for me. I’m 85, on oxygen 24 hours a day, in very poor health, and having to go into a nursing home”.

Even though the AARP article I just read said we should live to be 120, so many of the elderly I’m in contact with through my day job seem to be worn out and miserable by their 80’s. Many in their 70s. I find that so very depressing. I feel so badly for them.

I don’t know that I’m doing all the right things to shoot for that goal of 120, but I sure hope I am. I’m trying. Doing the right things is no guarantee I won’t get cancer (or some other illness) or get into an accident. Cancer runs in both sides of my family, as does heart disease. I’ve had some brushes with pre-cancer already.

However, my dad is 77 and seems to be in great health. He eats pretty well, he exercises daily, and he keeps mentally sharp. He walks in the mall daily. He plays golf several times a week. He has exercise machines in his house. He will not take medicine unless forced, and then only a couple pills. (Meanwhile, I’m not as good as him as I take three prescription meds daily and I do take pain reliever when I’m in pain – he won’t).

Conversely, my mom died of cancer in her late 50s. She was overweight for a lot of her adult life. She wasn’t nearly as active as my dad. She did some bowling once or twice a week, but that was about it. She took a lot more medicine than dad ever has. She liked to eat out a lot.

So maybe there is merit to that AARP article…

Okay, I have to laugh at myself. I say I feel young, I hope I look young, and I want to act young, and yet I’m going on and on and on about health and aging. Isn’t preoccupation with health and aging a sign of aging?

Argh! I’m hopeless.

Sunday, June 25, 2006

Click (the movie) - Ashley's unofficial review - 2 1/2 nachos

The kids and I saw CLICK today.

It has a great moral, some laughs, even a few tears, and okay acting, although not Oscar-winning stuff. It was a fun way to while away a rainy Sunday afternoon.

However, although amusing enough to see one time, it is not one I wish to see over and over.

The commercial previews give an accurate overview of the movie. The hero (Adam Sandler) fast forwards his life away. One morning, his little daughter is 5 years old. A day later, she's all grown up. He loses his wife, his family slips away from him, and his health has vanished. By the time he learns his lesson not to wish his life away, it's too late.

This movie teaches that all the moments of our lives are worthwhile, even the unpleasant ones. It also teaches that if we wait for the big moments, we'll miss the smaller moments that make our lives truly happy.

I give it 2-1/2 nachos out of 5. (my new rating system. :)

Saturday, June 24, 2006

Karate graduation

My youngest son, youngest daughter, and I are all now camo belts. Yipee!!!

Our graduation was this morning. Mr. A (our instructor) really worked us out. What a devil! Whew! 100 jumping jacks, 10 rounds of sparring, sit ups, and he even had our partners punch us in the stomach and then walk on our stomach! But in the end, we moved up.

I did my form (Songham 2) well. One member of our group flubbed up one of the first 5 moves and had to redo it. I felt so bad for her. She's a 16-year old and she was crying. After that, at least two other groups encountered problems with their forms and had to redo them. So the young lady by me felt slightly better, but still not too good. The entire class graduated despite this.

Afterward, several members of the class had a party. For really circumspect people in class, boy are they fun and naughty out of class! Can you say jello shots? We really laughed it up. I blew it in the weight department, though.

Although I passed on the jello shots and margueritas, I had pizza and cheese and pepperoni crackers. TOMORROW, I will have to be good. And the rest of tonight.

I'm so spent now, I have to lie down. I probably won't awken until tomorrow. And I'd really wanted, no NEEDED, to work on my website. I've still not changed all my pages (primarily excerpt pages) over to my new website design. I also need to work on an edit. But if I work on it this beat, I'll make mistakes right and left, and just have more to edit. Sleep wins out.

Weight Loss Tips - eat out and still watch your weight

True to my word, here's some more weight loss/management real life hints.

If you're like me, you're on the go a lot. Working women, and especially working mothers (with two jobs), don't always have the luxury to cook a two hour meal (or even a half hour meal).

Face it, sometimes we stop for fast food, either from a fast food restaurant or something quick and easy from the grocery store.

But what to choose?

Here are some low-cal foods to get when you're on the go.

  • Subway - one of the 5 under 5 or one of their salads with low-cal dressing
  • Wendy's Frescata sandwiches.
  • Wendy's salad but be double sure to get low-cal dressing!
  • Wendy's baked potato - with salsa or just salt and pepper (no butter, no sour cream), or with a cup of their chili
  • Wendy's chili
  • McDonald's bagel with cream cheese (on the breakfast menu only)
  • Wendy's, McDonald's, and Burger King - grilled chicken breast (no bread, no mayo)
  • Cut up watermelon or fruit salad from the grocery store
  • a piece of fruit from the grocery store (apples, bananas, pears, grapes, strawberries...)

Please let me know if you have any other suggestions.

Ashley

Friday, June 23, 2006

Weight Loss Tips - from someone who lost 95 pounds in one year

Did you know that I lost 95 pounds in one year? Yep. Honestly.

That was three years ago.

I went from a size 20 (edging on a 22 XXL) to a size 8 (with the occasional 6 thrown in).

I made a life-style change using Weight Watchers online, and later, by attending the in-person meetings as well. Plus I indulged in a LOT of excercise.

However, even using the Weight Watchers points system, there's a LOT of leeway. It's a great guideline but YOU still make the choices. At least I did and most people who do. (there are suggested menus on line, but I never followed those - mainly because I hate tuna, and they usually include tuna a few times weekly)

I'll start posting a lot of weight watching tips here as so many people have asked me for advice on how I accomplished this wonder.

I feel that with any diet or lifestyle change, you need t: 1) eat a healthy, balanced diet, 2) drink at least 8 glasses of water a day, and 3) excercise at least 30 minutes a day, better yet, 60-90 minutes daily.

The year I lost 95 pounds, my primary exercise was walking. I walked almost every day, usually between 60 and 90 minutes. I walk during both my breaks at work and on the occasional lunch hour. I walk for another hour (or more) after work at one of the nearby parks. I run as my breath will permit. Mainly, I walk. It's cheap. It's easy. I wear my MP3 player and bop along to my tunes, so it's fun.

A couple times a week, I bicycled instead of walking. If time permitted that day, I did both. Occasionally, I took the kids rollerskating. That was the BEST exercise, at least according to the scales. Occasionally, I took the kids swimming. How I wish I had my own pool or still belonged to the gym. But I don't. Our city pools suck because the one within walking distance of my house is always monopolized by the swim teams and also because they close at 7 pm. I don't get home from work until 6 pm anyway. The second city pool completely belongs to the swim and diving teams. The third and last city pool, is for families. However, it's mainly for young children. There's nowhere to swim laps or exercise. They also close at 6 or 7 pm. Suffice it to say, I'm really MAD! at our city's recreation/swimming department. Also suffice it to say, I have my eye on LA Fitness and their pool!

Now I take taekwondo 5-6 days a week. That's also great exercise. There are added benefits - now I can defend myself. I'm making new friends. I have a goal to become a black belt. I'm having fun. I'm happy. Oh! Tomorrow morning I graduate to camo belt. Hooray! I'm so pumped!

Food tips:
  • Eat lots of fruits
  • Eat lots of veggies
  • Eat chicken (broiled or baked. NEVER fried)
  • Eat seafood like shrimp (NOT shrimp scampi, fried shrimp, or the like)
  • Be careful with salads (they are not always, nor even usually low cal. It depends on the dressing and all the ingredients. Croutons are NOT your friend!)
  • drink only fat-free milk and use only fat-free dairy products
  • severely limit carb intake
  • Tootsie Roll pops are only 1 WW point (Honestly! What a lifesaver!)
  • Skinny Cow makes an awesome 2 WW point ice cream sandwiches. In particular, the mint chocolate are to die for.
  • 98% fat-free popcorn is heaven sent. Stockpile it!

To be a lot more specific, I take LOTS of food with me to the day job daily. (Hint: The stash of food hiding under my desk would feed my entire department of 6 for a week if we get surprised and shut in by a hurricane.) I do this so the evil snack machine won't tempt me.

I either take 2 cups of cut-up radishes, cut up watermelon, or a small bag of mini carrots and fat-free/low cal veggie dip for my snacks. I also keep an apple and/or a banana handy for my afternoon snack. Sometimes I take a Claussen's kosher dill pickle with me as well. And I also keep a bag of Werther's 1-point Weight Watcher's English toffee treats and Tootsie Roll pops in my desk for when I absolutely have to have candy.

I'm constantly hungry and I can't survive without eating - a LOT. I nibble almost constantly. Once I start eating for the day, I have trouble stopping. I used to hold off eating for as long as I could, often till 2 or 3 pm. But now, I have to take thyroid meds first thing in the morning ( I have a low-functioning thyroid), and I get sick if I don't eat immediately after, so I have to eat early. Also, now I know that I need to kickstart my metabolism by eating something (healthy) early.

I get around this as best I can by filling up on veggies and fruits - the radishes, or watermelon, or carrots and dip. OR I eat a 2 WW cup of instant cream of wheat with a couple packets of Splenda. OR I eat a low cal version of a sausage biscuit. Take one Boca sausage patty (or Morning Star brand sausage patty) and one Weight Watcher's English muffin. Put the sausage patty inside the split open English muffin. Microwave on high for 40 seconds. Voila! One fantastic, low-cal, sausage biscuit. It's only 2 WW points! Okay, and I still nibble on the radishes or carrots the rest of the work day.

For lunch, and dinner, I usually have one of these meals:

  • one WW frozen entree (4 points or less) - I almost always add one or two cups of canned mushrooms and sometimes a cup of chopped green onions, to add to the flavor and also to make it more filling
  • one can of spinach and one can of mushrooms. I usually eat them separate, but when they accidentally get mixed, they still taste great. Sometimes, but not always, I'll also have a banana. The spinach and mushrooms alone is 1-1/2 WW point. With the banana, it's a whopping 3-1/2 point meal. Not too shabby.
  • chicken vegetable soup. I only add a little bit of chicken for flavor, even though chicken isn't high calorie. There's not enough protein nor flavor if you leave it out totally. I make it with one can of whole-kernel corn, one can of green beans (my favorite is Italian green beans but it can be any variety), one can of cut carrots, one can of diced tomatoes, one to two chicken breasts diced into small pieces, 2 tblsp chicken boullion, two Tbslp garlic salt, and two Tblsp oregano. Uhm uhm good! With only a little chicken, this is about 1 point for 2 cups. With more chicken, it's 1-2 points per cup. Again, a lot of food for the points value! Oh! Do NOT drain any of the juice. That makes your broth. Do NOT add water.
  • Spinach pie. I love this! Mix one package of very-well drained frozen spinach (thawed of course), two cups of fat-free cottage cheese (I prefer WalMart brand over all the brands), two cups fat-free mozarella cheese or two cups fat-free cheddar cheese. Sprinkle about a Tsp each of salt and pepper. Mix well. Bake until the cheese is melted and bubbly. The entire "pie" is only 9 WW points. I usually only eat 1/3rd or 1/2 at a time. However, if I'm super hungry, I have been known to eat the whole thing.
  • Spicy green beans and mushrooms. Caveat: I only like this when made with Italian green beans. Combine two large cans of green beans with 1 small to medium can of mushrooms. Include all the broth from the cans. Sprinkle very very generously with Cajun spice and fairly liberally with black pepper. Cover with lid. Heat until boiling. Reduce to simmer until most of the liquid is drained. I eat this as a complete meal or a side dish or sometimes as a snack. It's extremely spicy. Of course, I LOVE spicy! One cup is zero points. Two cups is one point. I think three cups is either 2-1/2 or 3 points.
  • Shrimp. Boil it. Broil it. Grill it. Skewer it. Just don't fry it. Four ounces is about 2 WW points. Cocktail sauce is also very low-cal, so enjoy!
  • Salsa!!! It's very low cal, spicy, and delicious, so made for me. Of course, it needs chips or veggies. I love chips. Chips aren't extremely low cal, but not too bad. Occasionally, maybe once a week or every other week, you can have chips and salsa. Or use salsa as a salad dressing or topping for a baked potato. (Hint: Baked potatoes are about only 5 WW points - plain. Do NOT add butter or sour cream. However, you can use "I Can't Believe It's Not Butter" or salsa. I also like to add regular or green onions to baked potatoes for flavor)
  • I Can't Believe It's Not Butter. Another great invention. I use it on corn on the cob and baked potatoes.
  • Egg whites or egg substitute. I can make a mushroom omelete for about 4 points that's filling. For a couple mores points, I can have it with fat-free cheese. Scrumptious!
  • Corn on the cob. Surprisingly one small to medium corn on the cob is only 1 WW point! I love corn, so I'm doing the happy dance. However, if you indulge in two cobs in one day, it's not just 2 WW points, but 2-1/2 WW points. I also eat a lot of corn on the cob.
  • Fish. Fish, like chicken and seafood, is very low cal. It's very healthy on one hand, but has health concerns if consumed more than once a week, so I eat a cod fillet once a week or every other week. Unfortunately, I'm picky. The only fish I really love is cod. I hate tuna and I'm not big on salmon, tilapia, white fish, etc. I broil it or occasionally use a spicy breading.
  • low-cal grilled cheese! Seems like a paradox, doesn't it? Use either two slices of WW bread, or use other low-calorie bread. Use fat-free or low-fat American cheese single slices. Use non-fat butter spray or I can't believe it's not butter, and "fry". This is about 4 WW points for one sandwich. I should do this more often - maybe tomorrow!
  • WW diet milk shakes. Pure ambrosia. of course, you have to buy the mix at either a Weight Watchers store/meeting house, or order online. It tastes like a milk-shake. I love the chocolate. If you make it with water, it's only 1 point for two big glasses! If you use fat-free milk, it's only 3 points. I always make it with water and it still tastes great.
  • Diet Soda. I know, I know. It's not particularly healthy. But I like it. There's practically no calories. You do get used to it, at least I did. And diet rootbeer also has the added benefit of NO caffeine. Woohoo! Although I also like Diet Pepsi. I used to love Mountain Dew - I mean I guzzled it during my Air Force days, practically survived on it. But I hate diet Mountain Dew. (unless they changed the formula in the past couple years)
  • Denny's vegetable soup. One bowl is only 1 WW point! This is a lifesaver. At least it was when they served it daily. My local Denny's (perhaps the entire chain) only serves it on Saturdays, Sundays, and Mondays now. Sometimes they run out late at night. :(
  • SUBWAY!!! Need I say more? Okay, I can't help myself. Eat any of the 5 under 5. I usually get the turkey breast and ham on whole wheat. It's only 5 or under if whole wheat bread is used. Load it up with veggies.

I can't mention all my tips and tricks in one article. This is already way long. So, I'll end for now, but I promise I'll bring you more tips, hints, and tricks often and soon.

I'd like to hear from other people who have lost weight, how you did it or how you are doing it. How do you keep it off? What are your favorite recipes? Your favorite low-cal food? Any tips, hints, and tricks that you're willing to share. Readers, writers, and otherwise, most of us are trapped in a computer chair for several hours of our day, so it's easy to gain weight and hard to lose it.

Ashley

Wednesday, June 21, 2006

The Lake House

I wish I could be a movie reviewer. I love movies. I adore movies. I especially love to watch them on the big screen with the lights down low and a big tub of buttery popcorn cradled in my arms, to become absorbed in their drama.

This weekend I saw “The Lake House” with Keanu Reeves and Sandra Bullock. It was wonderful.

I don’t say that lightly. I’ve been very disappointed in most of the movies I’ve seen lately. The last one I saw that I really enjoyed was “Pride and Prejudice”. “Ice Age 2” and “Last Resort” were okay but not spectacular. I did NOT enjoy “The Break Up” or “Failure To Launch” or “The Family Stone”. "The Weather Man" was so extremely revolting and annoying and boring, that I walked out of that one about half way through. And I had just begun to start liking Nicholas Cage after "National Treasure" which was awesome.

“The Lake House” exceeded my expectations. However, I was unprepared to cry. Be warned, take a box of tissue with you if you ever get weepy-eyed at the theater.

Bullock and Reeves were superb. The story, a time-travel romance, was poignant and riveting.

However, there were two plot points that my editor would not have let me get away with. I don’t want to spoil the movie for anyone, so suffice it to say that in this day of the Internet, I and most women of average curiousity would have been checking out the hero’s history a lot more than Bullock’s character. I found the fact that she didn’t to be rather unbelievable, even annoying. Of course, they would have had to work a little harder to keep up the suspense till the end, but then that’s a writer’s job, right?

I’ve always been a fan of Bullock. Whereas I liked Reeves before, now I have added him to my list of favorite romantic heroes.

Let me add one more word of caution. The time sequences change very quickly. Pay close attention to the movie lest it become very confusing. It's structured a lot like "Sliding Doors" with Gwyneth Paltrow. Pay attention to Sandra Bullock's hairstyle to know which time line you're currently following.

I’m all atingle waiting for “Pirates of the Caribbean II” to come out. We’re going to have a Pirate Party, dress as pirates, act like pirates, and then go to the first late-night showing of the movie, all as pirates.

Eh! Maybe we’ll even do that for the premiere of “Superman Returns” as well. However, I don’t know if Ft. Lauderdale’s ready to see a bunch of 40 somethings dressed in those little blue tights. Ah, so what? They might just have to live with it! LOL

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

My mother...

My mother died 18 years ago today, June 20th, 1988.

Some years, the day comes and goes without me remembering. This isn’t one of those years.

Although I remembered early this morning, I was okay – well, slightly melancholy, but not weepy. It’s been 18 years after all. And then I received one of those sob, sentimental emails from a friend. The email was prefaced that this email was sent by a lady to her coworkers who died before anyone read the email. Her friends and coworkers found it Monday morning after they knew she was gone. It’s one of those, “If I was to die and not have the chance to tell you one last time I love you…please know I love and cherish you” type of emails that makes the rounds. They make the rounds a lot where I work, anyway.

I started to cry. I couldn’t stop. The tears destroyed my make-up and I used the last of the Kleenex on my desk. My eyes are red. I think it took me at least twenty minutes to get a grip.

I miss my mother. I know I’m blessed to still have my father, my uncle, and two of my aunts. Very blessed and I thank God. I still have my husband and my children and a new granddaughter is on the way – she’s due around Halloween.

Still, I miss mom.

Oh oh. Here I go again. The tears are stinging. I’d best make this short before I drown in my tears.

Mom was wonderful. She loved me a lot. I was her only child. She doted on me. And, like the fool I am, I didn’t appreciate her enough when I had her. We fought – a lot. My hubby says its because we’re too much alike. Mom said that I looked like her but that I act like my father.

My oldest daughter doesn’t like to hang around with me, either. Again, hubby says we’re too much alike. I was like that and I really regret it. How I wish I had that time back!

My younger daughter is practically joined at my hip. I love it. I’ll miss it like crazy when she grows up and moves away but I’m enjoying the time together while I can. I feel bad that my other children seem to be envious. I’m not trying to play favorites. I love all of them. This one, however, wants to go with me everywhere I go. I invite all of my kids to go with me when I can. Well, sometimes I don’t invite the youngest when he’s been bad and is being punished or if it’s past his bedtime. Then he acts as if I’m playing favorites against him. I digress…

Mom, I know you’re up in Heaven and that you’re my angel. I hope you know how much I love and miss you.

(Oh oh! There went my make-up again.) Maybe later when I have complete privacy where it won’t matter if the tears flow and destroy my make-up, I’ll write more about how wonderful Mom was. Right now, I’m getting too choked up.